We have seven positions that have been
tweaked and tailored by sex experts to help you reach orgasm every
single time — plus, a few extra tricks so the road to bliss is even more
of a sure thing.
1. When it’s a mind-blowing, bed-rattling
orgasm you’re after, keeping it simple is absolutely key. Sure, wild,
crazy, never-knew-my-body-could-bend-that-way booty keeps your lust life
exciting, but if the goal of the moment is to break pleasure records,
you have to stick to the basics. “Trying to accomplish complicated
acrobatics distracts you from the sex itself, putting your focus on how
you can contort yourself, rather than on just experiencing the
sensations,” explains sex educator Dorian Solot, coauthor of I (Heart)
Female Orgasm. “When you want to climax, the simplest positions are
often also the best positions, and with a few modifications, you can
make them even more orgasm inducing than they already are.” Don’t worry,
we’d never leave you hanging. Here, Cosmo custom-designed some of the
carnal classics to make sure you always hit the high notes.
2. You’ll never see missionary position
the same way again. “While on your back, put a pillow under your butt,
lift your hips, and bring your legs up and back toward your shoulders,
as though you’re folding in half,” says Solot. This move allows him
better ease of thrusting and deeper penetration — a perk for both of
you. Plus, it can stimulate your G-spot. But consider this a warm-up —
you’re getting the zone primed for a more intense orgasm. Once your
G-spot feels sufficiently stroked, put your legs down and have him get
into coital-alignment-technique (CAT) position. “He’s on top, but he
lifts his pelvic bone upward, aligning it with your clitoris,” says sex
therapist Gloria Brame, PhD. “Then he rocks against the area until you
peak.” “The legs-up position is a slow burn that brings you to the brink
and increases sensitivity. Then the addition of clitoral rubbing takes
you over the edge in a bigger way than if you had done CAT alone,” adds
Brame.
3. You’ve probably tried an all-fours
pose before (at least, we hope you have!). But while mentally the
doggie-style position has great bad-girl benefits, in order to make it
actually orgasmic, you need to modify it a bit. “Lie on your stomach,
lifting your butt slightly so he can enter you,” suggests Solot. “Your
partner can prop himself up with his hands in a push-up position or lie
on top of you.” Not only does this facedown configuration provide
increased friction as he moves in and out, but you can gently grind your
clitoral area against the bed as well.
4. With all the twisting and bending that
goes on, sometimes sex can feel more like a cardio workout than a
pleasurefest. That’s why it’s important to have at least one relaxed
orgasm — inducing position in your repertoire. Such as this: “While
you’re on your back, he should lie on his side, turned toward you,”
explains Solot. “Swing both legs over his hips and thighs, making a
bridge over them.” Then, just let him gently thrust into you. If it
takes you a while to climax, this pose is ideal. “It’s not very aerobic,
so the sex can go on for a long time without either of you tiring out,”
says Laura Berman, PhD, director of the Berman Center and author of The
Passion Prescription. “When you want to climax, it’s easy to touch
yourself or he can use his top hand to stimulate you.”
5. Girl-on-top tends to be a go-to for
achieving orgasm…and for good reason! “It allows you to dictate the pace
and depth of thrusting, but mainly, you have easy access to your
clitoris,” says Berman. “You can touch your C-spot, have him touch it,
or rub against his pubic bone to achieve orgasm.” But you can up the
ante by literally pulling a 180. Twist around so you’re pointed toward
his feet in reverse cowgirl position. “Instead of straddling him, put
your legs together, feet flat between his legs,” suggests Brame. The
benefits of this are twofold: With your legs together, the fit is even
tighter, making the sensations more intense. Plus, there’s increased
G-spot stimulation, which combined with your own clitoral strokes, makes
for an explosive orgasm.
6. In some cases, a simple change of
scenery can aid in achieving orgasm. For this move, you’ll need a
kitchen table — one that comes to your man’s waist. “Lie down on the
table with your butt near the edge,” suggests Solot. “He enters you
while standing between your legs, holding on to your hips for leverage.”
You can rest your feet on his shoulders or on the edge of the table.
Because he’s standing, his hands are free to stroke your body,” says
Brame. “And he’s at a perpendicular angle, rather than right on top of
you, making it easier for him to touch your clitoris, unobstructed.” To
up your odds of orgasming, clench and lift up your butt, which will
increase the pelvic tension and blood flow to the area.
7. This one’s always a fan favorite — he
sits and you straddle him so you’re face-to-face. “You have a lot of
control over the speed, angle, and motion because you can use your arms
and legs to help you maneuver,” says Berman. “Rather than just moving up
and down, which can be especially tiring for you, sway forward and
back, rubbing your clitoral area against him.” In addition to the
freedom of movement, there are a few other benefits to this booty move.
“If you lean back just a little bit, you’ll get greater G-spot
stimulation and he’ll be able to play with your clitoris,” Brame
explains. Plus, your breasts will be perfectly aligned with his mouth,
adding a whole other layer to the sexual experience
8. Obviously, you know emotional
attachment is essential to achieving orgasm with your guy. And there’s
no configuration that’s more snuggly than the spoon. To assume the
position, simply lie on your side, your guy scooted up behind you.
Rather than move in and out, he should stay inside you, gently thrusting
against the front wall of your vagina. “Aside from fulfilling your
cuddly needs, it provides consistent stimulation to your G-spot, which
is key for achieving orgasm from intercourse,” Berman points out. “Since
he may not be able to penetrate you as deeply though, guide his hand
around your hot spot.” And just think: Once you’ve both climaxed, you’ll
be in perfect postcoital position as well.
9. When it comes to achieving supreme pleasure, being in the right mind-set is half the battle.
Let your thoughts wander. It helps to
transport yourself mentally to a sexy place. Fantasize that you’re
getting it on in a lust-inspiring locale or even with another man, like a
hot trainer at your gym or, hell, Justin Timberlake. No guilt — it
doesn’t mean you want to cheat on your guy.
Strengthen your senses. Certain smells
and sounds can have a Pavlovian affect on your libido. Think about what
puts you in the mood, and then designate an enhancer that will signal to
your brain and body that it’s time to get naughty. For example, before
sex, put on a sultry jazz CD.
10. Be selfish. Worrying too much about
your guy’s pleasure means you wind up ignoring your own. So silence the
inner monologue of “How am I doing?” and simply enjoy the experience.
Otherwise, it becomes more work than play.
Stay on course. A stressful day’s
memories can still manage to sneak up on you, even when you’re
mid-mattress session. To stay in the moment, try to focus your thoughts
purely on the physical and pay attention to how every touch, lick, and
stroke feels.
-Cosmoplitan
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